the shaytaan that have to do with this matter, and do not give evil any way Shouldnt man and wife be friends, ask for eacothers opinion as Our Prophet(pbuh)did? ISLAM QURIAN is d manual 2 better and peaceful live . So first, polygamy is rule made by Allah and you have to accept it. NO! She left her home,bears your name,married to you,people know her by your name,and till the end she would be known by your name,still you would doubt her being not loyal to you or obedient? Finally, it may indicate that you are committed to the relationship between your husband and his sister-in-law. The coworker response, he never told you? my response,tell me what?the coworker replies, he has been married for two yrs and has a child. I confronted him and he lied about having a wife and child. And as for he thinks of other women when you treat us like this, it is then we wish we had another husband who is a gorgeous hero.. In fact, his step mother forced her husband into second marriage to have children). Then he is not in true love with his first wife. Chapter 4, Verse 34 2. Watch this emotional cartoon animation to see how a man married another woman without first divorcing his wife. JOIN US Facebook https://bit.ly/3yOap. @ sara in an earlier post could you deFine the word normal? It could be that when you are there with him, he will get better, but you should be careful and tell you that you demand being treated with dignity. husbands rights and honour. This quick list is for the Muslim sisters in my audience. but women are allowed to ask for KHULA (which is automatically granted) if man is impotent. Allah commands us in the Quran to lower our gaze, which is to prevent us from having improper thoughts. Thwart the plans of the shaytaan by not letting this young But now I have a better understanding of this I used to think that it was only my husband dat acts this but I now I have a better perceptive of things! But there is an entire SURAH! this was supposes to be my first eid-ul adha and because its his first in 36 years without his parents and relatives he was annoyed of something little, said i ruined his eid, acted like im not his wife, and said to me he has the worst eid because of me, and for 2 days we argued so bad that now he said he is happier without me and he wouldnt miss me or my kisses(he said wallahi) . I know of at least five or more he been with them. Lve ! However, I could be a second wife, no problem but I could NOT EVER be a first wife whose husband then took a second. what if a woman has more than average desire. With regard to your request for a duaa, I ask Allaah, the Most High, the Almighty, by His grace and favour, to make goodness easy for you and to ward off all evil from you, and to continue to bless you and your family with stability and love, and to keep you and your husband and children safe, and to ward off from you the whispers of the shaytaan and his making falsehood attractive. So, your husband is fully responsible for his emotions upon receiving feedback and correction. Though Islam permits man to have more than a wife, it stipulates that certain conditions are to be met in this regard, for Islam's main focus is on building a stable marital life. Thanks anyway. All I want to be is a nice husband and never take advantage of my wife in any way. As long as he is of good character and religiously committed, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption. Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (1084) from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) thorn that pricks him, but Allaah will expiate his sins thereby.. This is not the case with all the men.. we are not chicks of the same hen. For men who want to carry out a second marriage, then this is permissible in Islam. He told me the coworker was jealous because I liked him. his family told him to do second marriage. Infront of all insulting me. The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary". OK, he won't cheat because it will be a legitimate marriage instead of an affair, but isn't it still really bad? He again threatens you with divorce if you go forward ? While a man is always ready to cause the rise of this ummah. In none of the religious scriptures like the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. 2.If this person really loves I dont have my parents connection.. so I dont have any moral support. Ever wish you could read your husbands mind? The hadith regarding this matter says fair treatment. (3) Will become a midwife. You should realize that you have (interpretation of the meaning): Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in That should really be the last stage. She is having a hard time, he said, she dont know where the next meal is coming from or how to provide adequately for her children. After 2 weeks, a group of ladies from my family went to my in-laws house for patch up, but in front of them my husband again repeated the divorce words three times. 1. i love him more than anything else. Muslim men are not taught to treat a wife properly once married he has new responsibilities. All men are different and do expect different things, same goes for women, marriage is about communicating, you are not just two people that meet in day to have sex and thats it, where is the communication, find out what YOUR husband wants and not what this idiot wants. Zakkiya http://www.muslimommy.com, What happens if he abuses you physically, insult you and your family every chance he gat, threaten divorce all the time, because of minor issues. Excellent and so so true! We have Your side of the story sister. As for the positive result that you say your friend got, legitimate marriage contract between you and your husband, so who can If you still want to know more then as a sheikh. I guess by reading these points not only muslim but every woman can make a way to her husbands heart!! wife). In Islam, we cant force anyone to do anything, as the Quran states: There shall be no compulsion in (acceptance of) the religion. (Quran: Chapter 2, Verse 256), SubhanAllah beautiful article mashAllah..may Allah reward u greatly in both worlds for spreading the knowledge peace.xx, Number 4 is rubbish..just coz the author deisres other women or thinks of taking another wife doesnt mean all men do .. most normal men are actually content with one wife..and same applies 2 women not just men many straight woman desire other men too but obviously der not gna tell their husbands LOL. We need to be more respected. (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). And no man likes knowing a woman he wants to be with will surely bail out if he is not satisfying her. Allaah says @Paula- So sorry that you have to deal with all this:(. Seeing your husband marrying his brother's wife in a dream may symbolize the feelings that you both . U have to attract him in such way that,he should be afraid to listen the word DIVORCE from your mouth. no straight order just few words to tell guys that it is good for them if they are good with their wives. A pregnant woman out of wedlock, can be mated to the man who impregnated her. This list will give you good idea of some of the things your husband thinks about, but just doesnt know how, or want, to tell you. If anyone ever asked, I would describe my relationship as strong, trusting, and extremely happy. disobeying Allaah or going against His commands, this is a sin for which he sister Fatima, May ALLAH forgive you. Muslim girl, read the brothers comment carefully then make your comment. And why would I when I love my wife. He is ignoring me. Because deep down, we really just want to make you happy. The moment you hide it from your first wife means you lack the genuine reason. Nobodys perfect.Perhaps your husband isnt a Muslim scholar. so dont worry.lol. You said a man is not allowed to marry a 2nd without the first PERMISSION. One fills in what the other lacks. I felt contrite, I felt that because I did not give another woman a chance, a space in my life, that Allah will punish me this time around. It does not store any personal data. Made us cook only traditional food. It is unfortunate that youfind yourself in this position, sister. Lastly, just like the man, a woman desires respect from her man too. Similarly, its unfair for men to expect their wives to behave like Aisha (RA) and his other wives (RA) did. Thank you for making it clear, I was already shocked by the comments 0.0. I believe you know the wisdom behind this command of Allah swt. You need to make taubah and try to learn more. Good question. 3. Treat her like a servant. Im really not in the mood.. So you are in essence saying that you are disgusted with something Allaah allowed and the Prophet peace be upon him, practiced. I feel. One day my brother told me that someone he knew is looking for a wife. I pray Allaah helps you and others in situations like yours. No one deserves to be spoken to like that. She cries every time they have intercourse and are intimate. Allaah says You may want to read aboutQuranic Dua for Diseases, A woman sometimes experiences pain, menstruation, and childbirth. I want to marry and be in halal relationship but looks like men only looking for friendship with benefits. Where is the heavy duty never ending reminders from family, imams, alims, scholars to men that paradise lies at the foot of the mother, not the father or husband? ________________________________________ To read that title he thinks about other women and then the next one.. he wants to make you happy I so desperately wanted it to work out. My above statement was based on what I have understood from the article. There are many women in here that have gone out of the fold of islam due to their own personal opinions contrary to what Allah swt has decreed. Please reference your sources, maybe you need to be careful what you say cause you will be accountable for your intentions and whats in your heart. asalamu alaikum, with them)] for you and you are the same for them. We are all human and built that way. . We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. Clearly, your husband did a harmful, immature, and unhealthy thing. How many of us men are amirs or princes living a lavish lifestyle. She lives in Senegal with her husband and his other wives. Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. If Allah says to we, women, to sastify our husbands desire, In some of the following hadith, it is stated. to be frank I think many muslim men prefer to have mistresses rather than remarrya man who agrees to remarry and to take the responsibility of another woman in my opinion is very courageous..personally I will prefer my husband have a second wife rather than having many short affairs,,,,, many sisters are not even aware that their husbands are cheating on them.. nice article.ma sha Allahdescribed very beutifully in concise way..wud recommend every1 even to watch sk.yasir qadhi lectures somewhere on youtube like a garment coursejust alhamdulillah awesome.beautifully explained..both for men and women,,,,:). For anyone who is not fair to his wife, there will be consequences on the Day of Judgment. Those were my words to my husband a few years ago when he mentioned to me that he is intending to marry again a second time. What, he gave her Mahr money, so now he owns her and shes his sex slave? In Islam, this is allowed in the second marriage. He probably cheated on you because you didnt fulfill his sexual desires so he left you in the dust. I was in shock for days. You are certainly rare. This kind of cases are very common among Muslims you can search it o. Society has changed and you shouldn't quit your job because your husband is being selfish by not giving you space. He Wants To Have Sex More Often. Dear Mehwish, My husband married his brother's wife. no you dont , he can married to 4 ladies you can be married to one . Salamualaikum wa rahmatuLlahi wa barakatuh. Salaam sister, quesrion; you dont rhink we are in times of war? Definition of Polygamy Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. That plus the fact that a good human is what one needs to strive to be, not a good muslim. It doesnt mean hes fantasizing about another woman. She is praying istikhaarah about We do not like our father to have another wife, women also hate their husbands to marry again but thats because it is no longer part of todays lifestyle in many societies but if people get used to it as for example if every one have more than a wife then it will not be a big deal I think. I dont think he likes me or my family. Where is their father? I asked, Cant he take care of his own kids? Polygyny falls in the middle category of things that are permissible. Try to reconcile all the lack of trust or resentment. One of the purposes of getting married is to protect the private parts. I would leave him the second he mentioned it to me. Surah Mujadilah (58) Read it. Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. @Annie then hes just an ungrateful husband who will NEVER be satisfied even if he had an entire harem full of women. Does the husband need the first wifes permission to have a second wife? So in the light of the above, its clear that the matter is not just having a right to do so, its how you use that right. Yes, it is a sin for muslim man or muslim woman to have an extra-marital affair or a pre-marital affair, be it with a muslim or non-muslim. Going for Second Marriage: Do I Need Wifes Permission? I remembered so many years ago when the life of another woman depended on my decision and what my decision was. Can I? Actually, this can be part of the marriage contract. tj. al-Jaami al-Sagheer, no. This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. If You Nudge Him, He Can Be A Better Muslim I could not fathom him holding her close and whispering loving words in her ears. Thus, your situation with your husband needs further investigation. Its a designated duty of the wife to comfort her husband, and protect him for indulging in something unlawful or from being distracted from his own responsibilities. May Allah bless your marraige and everybody elses. Sorry to hear what your husband does but believe me every single Muslim husband is not same.i saa muslim husband respect thier wifes and help them when they need so please do not think negative about islam .islam is really wide about womens right if you get chance study quran or islamic book .thanks fe-aman-Allah, I am working woman, my husband is also posess good job, alhamdu lillah wealth, but since15 years iam living with my inlaws,my inlaws r very stubborn and torchering me, i am asking for seprate house but not ready . when you bring it out again after all these years hell surely become again that fantasy sixteen year old you might have previously resorted to when he sheepishly said oops sorry just seems i aint in the mood luv. Im not even married but IN SHA ALLAH Ill marry the girl I love & the girl for whom Im praying. I call that rape. (ITS LIKE HIS SAYING ITS OKAY TO BE A LAZY MUSLIM-WHEN ITS NOT)Brothers should do the utmost best to emulate the life of the prophet and their should be no excuses brothers are too busy lecturing sisters on how to be a good wife when their forgetting about their own individual selves. No one should be forced to have sex if theyre not up to it. ITS more responsibilities! 6. Surely a Muslim husband would be accommodating and respectful of his wife in full However, among the conditions of polygyny, is that the husband should be able to afford the obligatory . You men are so full of your selves. Im just 19 almost 20 in sha Allah and not used with a marriage so i cry often(now without reasons of course) and i dont always use the greatest tone when im mad at him but i do other amazing things for him which whom now he forgot. You will find the strength IA. Hmmmm. seriously good points you have mentioned here. I cannot imagine that all married men think about taking another woman. (960 A.D to 1030 A.D) issued an edict against it. Do you know his family and friends? As Mohammed Mynul Islam said, and he (the husband) spends the night angry.. This is a great article about men and how to keep your husband happy but why is there never any mention of how to keep a woman happy and what a man can do for a woman? Again, we are only getting a reaction waves from what happened in the last 200 years of changes in the lifestyle of people and the westernising/ americanizing, feminism etc and some people are trying to live with both this Americanized lifestyle and to accept all the authentic teaching of Islam as much as she can.. Second, third and fourth marriage is allowed by sharia. No one should have to have sex if they dont want to! Everything You Need To Know About Having a Wali in Marriage, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf6B4xk3kcI, 7 Things Your Muslim Husband Wont Tell You, Preventing the Girlfriend-Boyfriend Relationship. If he doesnt abuse you or sleep around. Chances are hell like it. Allah says, Then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four. (An-Nisa: 3) I would understand this rule if it was practiced under emergency circumstances such as after a war when there are a lot of widows who can't support their families, or in a society when women outnumber the men. I used to cook food for them I did everything a wife should be doing. You know what the problem with brothers is that the vast majority of them have no qualifications ,have nothing to be proud of the only thing that actually keeps them going is their dumb egos. But what completely switches us off is when you expect us to be fragrant and beautiful continually, yet make no effort with your appearance yourself. I needed to get out, to work and find a place of our own instead of living off the leftovers of others. I could not imagine myself in a plural marriage. It is hard to be all that for a man who doesnt respect,show love,have intimacy and hardly spends any time with kidsDo not bother him with small talk?what is that? Perhaps you noticed something about your husband's behavior in real life, which triggered your suspicion in a dream. My husband married another girl without informing me. It might be years later but I had to leave my reply. Shall I divorce him. Intention to worship and remember Allah taala. nobody is forcing anyone luv. All people (expect those nonhumans) deserve respect. Mam as everything without nikha we lived 5 years after dt my hubby convenienced dr parents I we get Nikha within one year my hubby attracted with other women bt I couldnt know how its happem. Im with you 100%, Kay. Log in, Join our e-mail list for regular site news and updates, All Rights Reserved for Islam Q&A 1997-2023. How could ones condition change so drastically? hey sista. I have two kids with him and I dont want my kids got hurt. The quran says that a man must treat his wives equally, you can easily argue that if the original wife doesnt want her husband to marry again then that is him being unfair to his first wife as compared to the potential second wife. Were not perfect. It is about give and take. If you make a second marriage, then you will have another family relationship. You need to put it in your marriage contract that you want a second wife. Okay, first of all, calm down. This is the Islamic view though. To those of you brothers who work at trying to be kind, considerate and loving to your wives, may Allah give you an enormous reward. i`m married for the second time. I find it very perverse. How can he ever cheat on me with the dami man. In the same chapter i.e. MY FELLOW MUSLIMAHLETS GET CLOSE TO ALLAHSO WE CAN GET OUR HUSBANDS TO BE CLOSE TO US..INSHA ALLAH.. Im in agreement with the comments however one thing i feel is never addressed is what if the husband does not fulfill his basic duties as a husband/father? In marriage at least men are asking for HALAL sex , men are just more horny than girls so if you love your husband and he needs you to relieve his sexual desires then so be it . Answering your question, Sheikh M. S. Al-Munajjid, a prominent Saudi Muslim lecturer and author, states: In the future there will be men who cherry pick aspects of the faith for example they will practice pologamy but they wont keep the beard as they dont see any significance. However, if you are afraid that you can not be fair (between wives if you have more than one wife) marry one wife or provide with the slave girl you have (Verse 4 : 3), 7. - Tabrez Ahmed Jan 3, 2013 at 8:13 1 Rasulullah said that love is in the hands of Allah, and you can do nothing. Men are the guardians of women. I am a woman in my 30s with 1 child. Just to forgive and make sandwich? It should not be a form of abuse. My only requirement will be that he treats me with kindness and he provides me separate accommodation. But if she refuses, only then will she be punished. Allaah has made the wife a covering for her husband and has made the husband a covering for his wife. That hadith is BOGUS. This answers the question directed to the authoR. I TOO WAS NOT FEELING THAT AT ALL BUT UPON FARTHER STUDING AND PRACTICING AL- ISLAM FOLLOWING THE QURAN WE HAVE TO ACCEPT THIS PONIT BLANK, excellent article for the wives of all married men, and true, This is a good advise for sisters in Islam and also teaches brothers little on how to treat their wife in a right way, Assalaam all It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one. I think thats why they go to islam religion. The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. When you said you will send him back home Allah knows best, Are you kidding ME????? Here is one of the hadiths where Prophet Muhammad SAW advocated men to choose fertile women. Its about consent on both sides. you enjoy the pleasure of living No much hope for Islam if goes that way We married women know you guys think about sex 24/7 and actually what you dont know is that we probably like it as much as you if not more. Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. In no event shall AboutIslam, its counselors or employees be held liable for any damages that may arise from your decision in the use of our services. Kindly tell me what should I do and with what reference I can convince my parents. When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. Is the husband is being gentle when he has sex? He lies, so I dont really know what is going on. InshaAllah Allah will reward you for all your patience and effort. Recently, I found marriage sites on our laptop. Praise be to Allah. If he is mistreating you, you have the right to leave him. Performance cookies are used to understand and analyze the key performance indexes of the website which helps in delivering a better user experience for the visitors. They are rather contradicting statements. She may declare that she loves him, but without her respect, he will quickly fall out of love with her. sis i am so sorry that you are going through this : ( May Allah reward you for your strength and improve your situation ameen. As in one of the hadith below is one of the stories how the Prophet SAW fair to his wives. Do not cherry pick what suits you, this is exactly the problem we Muslims are facing, cherry picking what suits us rather than taking Deen as a complete way of life. However, if the woman disliked this action, and did not want to give her husband this right, then it was her responsibility to mention this in the marriage contract. Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience.Chapter 103, Verse 3 I have no idea how all this happened but it happened and believe me it wasnt easy for me. I really like your article however there are some contradictions in it. If you man is not sexually satisfied by you and he is out for bread-winning, he may fall into something else, and it may eventually lead to be a greater disaster than Sex without feelings/Not wanting to. Moreover, both women are siblings or have the same blood relations with your wife before. It is up to the couple. Please do not stay and waste your life away with someone who is always mistreating you. According to scholars, the Shari`ah does not require the husband to get the consent of the first wife for a second marriage. it is not because during jihad that marriage more than one is permitted in islam . I have to stay with my parents. How many muslim men have actually married more than 1 wife around you? Never! There are many instances in which a man may choose to marry another woman. GOD has not created women emotionless Ive sat and told my husband how i feel and he does nothing, Ive done nothing but encourage my husband in the nicest possible way to do something with his life, run his own business etc but it falls on deaf ears now i have resorted to confiding in my family when Im down and cant take no more. the guy has duty to keeping his wife well comforted before he even thinks selfishly about his own satisfaction. but my husband love me also, he told me that he will not leave me. Urgh..How transparent..what a way to twist things to advocate ones own desires.. This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says: Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. Dn I am pregnant after my second daughter he kept her in rented house dt women already married n she have 5 year boy baby with first husband she kept relationship with my hubby n after along 5 years she get divorced with 1st husband now she staying with my hubby n she got 1 baby by my hubby. Salaam to all Muslim brothers and sisters who are reading this article and its forum. I think the writer of this article is a bit misinformed. When 1 or 2 months he lives with 2 nd wife I feel that I am not having any husband. Kudos to the author. I think every good Muslim husband understands his wifes problem and will not be angry if wife has some problem. married, then how can you be sure that he will not fall in love with someone No he does not need to ask premssion pologamy is halal not haram. i wont share my husband even after my death. Inspite of her respect,loyalty n etc etc if he will still think about other women in anywayu cant just justify by saying that all men do so or its their nature, Sisters, I take this as an opportunity to dispell some of the misunderstandings of this hadeeth. This commandment is written in the same verse in Surah An-Nisa. I dont know what happened to the women and children. You sir are correct issue at hand is that most people here are A. My friend was married to a Muslim man from Pakistan, but he just forgot to mention that he had plenty of other wives in Pakistan. but i don`t like the way things is going like this. Based on this, it is not permissible for you and this evil arent they all superficial? It may be possible in exceptional cases of one in ten thousand. Being a woman and knowing tons of other women I know when respect is given and there is lots of communication, the man will get whatever he wants, trust me on that. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Allaah has looking at women is natural and unsinnful is just YOUR THINKING AND NOT ALL MENS. Hi,I came across this when googling about Islamic views on male fantasies.I have been married for the last 8 years and realised my husband not only think about other women (which you seem to agree that most men do,well most straight men at least) but what is recommended that I do should I realise that not only does my husband think about other women,he thinks about having sex with them as well.I find it truly disturbing and upsetting not to mention disrespectful but he seemed to be forcing me to accept this is what it really is.I am truly lost.Please advise. And dont be so quick to nag him about the things he doesnt do right. Mashallah very interesting and thoughtful quotes. First weeks were reat but now lot of times we argued really bad even fight. 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